I am not gay

I Am Not Gay

Thinking about this post title for a bit and I was wondering what it should be. I had a few thoughts but in the end I think the title I chose sums it up best.

Growing up for me in Catholic Ireland I did all the cliched things .. all boys Catholic Primary School .. all boys Catholic Secondary School. I went to mass I was taught what is right and what is wrong and I grew up with lots of questions about religion which I doubt I ever had an opportunity to ask a religious person and if I’d been in a position might actually have led to me being a more religious person. One thing I don’t think I’d ever heard mention in all my time growing up was the word gay. ( Apart from Gay Byrne :D ). ( Yes once I hit University it became more common )

Flash forward a bit and I ended up meeting my beautiful wife and marrying her in 2007 in the local Mairie of her parents village near Quimper in France. Exactly one week later we ended up having our Religious Ceremony in the Church (full shebang .. white dress … car … rice and what not) in the same village. Straight people were present and Gay people were present and oh my god! we’re still alive.

Maybe I led a sheltered existance early on in my life? I’m not entirely sure. I knew about sex. 15’s and 18’s movies were never an issue at home ( I’m talking Terminator and so on people). We were generally allowed (apart from if my parents thought they were really crap TBH) to watch what we wanted, or at least that’s my recollection of things. ( I still haven’t killed anyone for the experience of watching all the horror / war / fighting / guns I might add … I don’t think I’ve been in a fight since I was in School either)

This evening I’m just hit by something I just saw tweeted over on politics.ie http://twitter.com/#!/PoliticsIE/status/37575840262787073

FG do NOT support same-sex marriage following reply to query http://www.politics.ie/fine-gael/152305-fine-gael-do-not-support-same-sex-marriage.html

It just makes me go WOW. My reaction to this is why? My question is why? and I’m left just asking why why WHY?

What … ****ing difference does it make to, let us say, “straight” people in general if gay people are allowed to marry?
Will it change the fact they live together? No.
Will it change anything much for anyone? No but it really will make a big difference for them.

If I were to ask you “If two people who love each other decide they want to spend their future together would you stop them?” .. of course we’ll assume you’re not stalking them and in love with one of them here, but you hopefully get my point.

Please political parties COP ON … these are human rights … to happiness … freedom of choice … and freedom of lifestyle. If someone told me in the morning I wasn’t allowed to be married to my wife I’d be pretty pissed off. It’s pretty important to us … it’s a sign of our love and commitment to each other … not to mention there are tax implications…

Just something I needed to get off my chest.

(hopefully what I’ve wanted to say hasn’t been lost too much, that tweet I read just really really annoyed me)

9 thoughts on “I am not gay

  1. Great Post James.

    Its complete nonsense. The reasons for getting married are personal. I married recently, in December and it was everything we wanted, more than we hoped for…And to deny people that just isn’t right, fair or just. The excuses and reasons that politicians list are such nonsense.

    Great post and well done for posting it.

  2. After the Blasphemy Act, nothing surprises me honestly. How can anyone care about the future of their country when they honestly can’t see one where everyone is tolerated. People in this country need to wake the fuck up and see that what they want isn’t what’s good for everyone else. Careful we don’t offend the church like, they’ve such a high reputation here like.

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  4. First off, you’re a designy type, right ? So you’re already a bit gay.
    Second, you got married in France to a wonde…. bit more gay I’m afraid.
    Luckily, the name Larkin is pretty straight, good old socialist values, nothing gay there…mind you.. Celia Larkin… ok juries out on that one.
    Now, pets: Dogs=straight and cats=gay. Which is it ?

    I’ve got kids, quite frankly if anyone is willing to put up with the responsibility, expense, heartache and sometimes joy that comes from the little sods, then let them at it.
    I don’t know of a single gay couple amongst my friends who wouldn’t make great parents.

    One thing, the constitution will need to be changed first. Nothing to do with rights and such, but children of gay parents must be removed from the home by social services for 48 hours over Halloween. Can you imagine those poor kids all dressed as cute pumpkins ? It’s not on.

  5. Just stumbled over it while being bored and surfing the web when I should be learning (Pathology test tomorrow *sighs*). So I might as well drop a few cents while not doing what I should…

    Hmmm… Looking at the conservative political spectrum (at least what’s called conservative nowadays), I came to believe that they follow the philosophy of: They may not dictate people anymore whats right or wrong by making (or keeping) it illegal. So at least they make it as hard and unpleasant for them as much as they can.
    Why? Well, conservativism lost its power because it failed to keep up with the social changes of the 20th century. So conservatives resort to their perverse and twisted schadenfreude because thus they keep the illusion for themselves that they’re still in charge and able to meddle with peoples lives.
    Sounds plausible?

  6. Great post James, and so glad to see that despite your education you still managed to stay completely open-minded. When I was growing up ‘Gay’ meant the true sense of the word… carefree, light-hearted, brightly coloured. My mum would sometimes say to me, you look gay today… ! And then of course we had Larry Greyson with his Oooo what a gay day, and later his song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RrDlnEyPPVw which of course put another slant on the word.

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